So you’ve found the person you’ve been wishing for your whole life. You’ve even decided you’re going to marry him or her in the future, and then it happens: your love says the most disrespectful remark to you that you’ve ever heard in your life. Could this be part of a simple lovers quarrel? Possibly, but don’t ignore it. This might be a sign that what you have is not a “match made in heaven.” I’d like to take some time with this post to explain when it’s best to say “NO” to the relationship that you’re in.
While at my internship, an A-list celebrity break up our radio’s airwaves. My boss replied that it can be super hard to be objective when you’re in love. But, the one thing I’ve found to be true is that compatible couples usually last longer. In order to find out how well you really mesh with someone, you must start with making an honest effort to figure out if each of your values is alike. The Bible says it best in Amos 3:3 “How can two walk together unless they agree?” So if you’re an Eco-friendly girl who’s green at heart, and your boo is notorious for littering, you two might want to reevaluate why you’re attracted to each other.
With all the fine ladies and young studs on Kent State’s campus, it’s not hard to fall for somebody’s looks or boyish charm. But, have you stopped to think about if you respect can a person’s character? It’s a good idea to ask yourself questions like, “Is this person someone I can depend on or can I trust them?” Respect also is reflected by how someone treats your boundaries. If it seems they are always pressuring you to do things you don’t want to, like having sex or lending large sums money, then your significant other doesn’t respect you. It may be time to find a healthier relationship.
Being able to say no, and standing behind your convictions, is the most important part of any relationship. It reminds each party in a relationship, that as individuals you have wants and needs. No matter what situation you’re in, when God puts it on your heart to say goodbye to a romantic relationship don’t ignore Him. Even though it can be hard, God has your best interest at heart and often times some of the friends; relatives and even lovers in your life cannot go where He has predestined for you to be.
Have something to add to this discussion? Don’t be shy, input is appreciated as this post is a chance for students to learn, grow and express themselves.